um ok then bitch go marry that lochness monster if you wish
no but could you imagine one of the quidditch team members saying “knock on wood” and they all just hit oliver before a big match
I’m almost a thousand percent sure the Weasley twins did that at some point
Threatening to kill an entire group of people based on a trait that they can’t control is not venting.
I reckon if more people understood this there would be a lot less victim blaming when it comes to rape.
You can read this post on my new wordpress blog (specifically dedicated to my experiences as an autistic person) here at Alaina Marie’s Keys.
While growing up, Amy had a very hard time socializing and was often nonverbal and catatonic. Amy would sit in one place in the same position for hours, maybe only changing it up to rock back and forth. Amy forgot to eat until she was starving. She forgot to drink water and became dehydrated. She was terrible at regulating her own body’s needs and would forget to pee until she was basically peeing herself, and always had trouble sleeping. Amy’s now an adult. She has a hard time expressing her own needs sometimes and doesn’t know how to ask for help, like if she can’t find something in a store. It takes all of her energy to do things that require a lot of senses at once, like shopping. If she is going shopping, she has to take a list and another person she trusts with her, because it is too hard to remember to purchase everything she needs and how to navigate the store and where her car is parked all at the same time. Amy experiences meltdowns if she has too many sensory things to process at one time, and during a meltdown she will scream, cry and be unable to move from the spot until she regulates. Amy frequently experiences burnout when she’s over-exerted herself and sometimes forgets where she is, feels hazy and confused and works basically on autopilot for days or weeks at a time.
While growing up, it was clear that Sarah had a knack for patterns. She could read a story and then create a story of a similar structure even though she had difficulty learning the formal processes of English in class. Sarah could remember endless facts and would recite them ad nauseam to her family and peers. Sarah created elaborate worlds from her own perspective, complete with characters, plots and fantasy elements and she would make drawings and 3 dimensional models to go with the stories. Sarah is now an adult. She’s in the Honors program at her college and is working on an honors thesis, where she essentially creates her own class for 6 credits and works with a professor one-on-one. Sarah is taking 6 classes this semester and has 3 part-time jobs and a 2-hour-per-week internship. Sarah tutors at the advanced level in several places on her campus. Sarah regulates a lot of her sensory issues well, and has turned a lot of her Sensory Processing issues into a running joke with her friends so she no longer feels self conscious about them. She has a lot of friends at school and a lot of people use the compliment, “You don’t seem like you have autism.”
Which person do you think is high functioning autistic and which is low functioning?
Can we please stop pretending it’s less important than all the other -isms?
i’ve gotten more crap for my autism than for being queer. more bullying, more shit talk, more exclusion, more dehumanizing — and WAY more trouble with employment and housing. ableism is a bigger problem than homophobia. surprising? that’s because people aren’t talking about it!
violence against disabled people is unbelievably common. i don’t want to start comparing it numerically with violence against women and racial minorities, because that might imply i don’t take the latter seriously. don’t get me wrong; those hate crimes are super awful and we need to make them stop. however i need to say this: my dash was 80% ferguson for at least a week after mike brown was shot, but i see at least a couple stories every month about autistics being murdered by their caregivers, by their schools, by police who interpereted a nonverbal shutdown as resistance, and these stories seldom get more than 100 notes.
please, folks, i know you care about people, i know you care about me, and i know you care about justice. please pay more attention to ableism. this is a huge civil rights issue.
i don’t mean the dumb sjw thing where people star out words like ‘crazy’ or call ‘ablesim’ on shit that is not ableism, btw. i definitely don’t mean the thing where my reclamatory usage of ‘sperglord’ and the like sets the whole parrot tree screeching. i mean stuff like sheltered workshops where it’s legal to pay disabled people less than a dollar an hour. i mean accessibility, i mean acceptance. i mean the thing where the discussion about autsim is led by a hate group that wants to eliminate our existence. i mean stop the violence.
In addition to the many autistic people who have been murdered by caregivers (and then, even scarier, the general public says that’s so sad, they might have done the same thing if they were that poor, overworked mother…), there is the pervasive problem of disabled people being discriminated against by the medical establishment.
Doctors routinely underestimate quality of life of disabled people and advise them—on the basis of inconvenience, not on the basis of any physical pain they might be feeling—to end their lives (see http://www.notdeadyet.org/ for an advocacy group devoted to protecting disabled people from coercive assisted suicide, such as doctors in some jurisdictions being allowed to suggest suicide without having to mention the existence of accommodations for a person’s conditions). In the US, in places where this is legal at all the doctor has to make a good-faith prediction that the person would die within six months anyway, but there are countries in Europe that are less restrictive in this regard, or that have no such restriction at all. (Belgium allows euthanasia even in non-terminal patients, and euthanasia—as opposed to assisted suicide—doesn’t even require the patient to be conscious or otherwise capable of giving consent as long as they have consented at some point in the past. Keep in mind that most people who want to attempt suicide change their mind at the slightest hindrance, intervention, or change in situation or mood—and that many people, upon becoming suddenly disabled, are briefly suicidal but almost all of them get over it after a month or two when they’ve had time to adjust—so if this sort of thing is to be even remotely ethical it has to involve consent at the moment before death.) Furthermore, there are tons of cases of families and friends pressuring disabled people into suicide. This can range from them saying they’d kill themselves if they were in the disabled person’s situation (despite there being several research studies saying that abled people, including doctors, vastly underestimate quality of life of disabled people, compared to what the disabled people themselves report feeling) to outright telling the disabled person they’re a burden.
The medical establishment also routinely obstructs treatment of disabled people. If a person is disabled they are unlikely to be able to get an organ transplant, for example—even if it’s for an unrelated condition—because they are considered low priority patients (see, e.g., http://www.cnn.com/2013/11/30/health/disabled-transplants/ especially the parts about studies of hospitals in general). And in some cases doctors will outright refuse even more basic medical care for disabled people, who then have to actually sue to get the life-saving care they need. The doctors base this, again, on their assessment of the disabled person’s quality of life, not on the disabled person’s own assessment.
I don’t often talk about my disability because I get the “Oh, you know my distant cousin (or other distant relative) has Autism so I know what that’s like” or what’s oddly worse, where they—speak—slowly—to—me because they think I’m stupid. I actually am half tempted to say “Hm, you should see a doctor about the slow speech!” I have to admit I hate it when my foster mum brings it up. Because they sort of obsess over it.
I’ve been bullied, I’ve been overlooked, assumed dumb, called wierdo, Spaz, * retard, freak….horrid stuff. Beaten, spat on, had some fucking twat pin me down and drag nettles across my stomach….being a disabled kid that other ‘normal’ kids and teachers assume they can get away with teasing, insulting, humiliating and abusing because they think I’m dumb and have no feelings was hell.
Attacking someone BECAUSE they are disabled, BECAUSE they are mentally ill, BECAUSE of some horrid belief that the person they are attacking deserves it just for existing is the stupidest excuse.
There was a case a while back, here in England that to this day disgusts me because the cops never truly helped out. Those youths should have been found, arrested and sent down for their actions. But no.
The sad fact is, there are plenty of other cases similar to this, but it seems like justice never comes through. Meanwhile the yobs that did it are laughing, because they got away with abusing a ‘cripple’. Sickos.
We may be challenged in some way, but we are still human God dammit!
*Fun Fact! : I was called a retard by my headteacher at junior school (6 years old), and even told it to my dad’s face. Her excuse was that because I wasn’t concentrating on my work (due to having books thrown at me) I was clearly retarded. She was fired a week later. Good riddance!
^Yes yes yes.
Not only is ableism important in its own right, but you can see it as related to other forms of prejudice. One of the justifications for preventing women from voting was that they weren’t rational enough to decide who should govern. This is an ableist argument. People prejudiced against African Americans constantly describe them as stupid and therefore lesser. This is also ableist. Certainly not every form of prejudice is rooted in or reducible to ableism, but I think if you look closely enough, you will often find a relationship. So, even if you aren’t disabled and don’t have any disabled people in your life somehow, you should still care about ableism.
This is like a round of cards against humanity
All the little angels rise up high!
How do they rise up, rise up, rise up?
How do they rise up, rise up high?’
‘That’s a nice song,’ said young Sam, and Vimes remembered that he was hearing it for the first time.
‘It’s an old soldiers’ song,’ he said.
‘Really, sarge? But it’s about angels.’
Yes, thought Vimes, and it’s amazing what bits those angels cause to rise up as the song progresses. It’s a real soldiers’ song: sentimental, with dirty bits.
‘As I recall, they used to sing it after battles,’ he said. ‘I’ve seen old men cry when they sing it,’ he added.
‘Why? It sounds cheerful.’
They were remembering who they were not singing it with, thought Vimes. You’ll learn. I know you will.
|—||Terry Pratchett, “Night Watch" (via reconditarmonia)|
Perfectly timed wedding photo
so she’s marrying a shark in disguise right
when will my reflection show
who i am
Nobody suspects a thing
- people who are lgbt+ can be assholes
- people with eating disorders can be assholes
- people with mental disorders can be assholes
- people who self harm can be assholes
- people who are disabled can be assholes
- people who have diseases can be assholes
do not excuse people for being assholes because something is wrong with them or have a hard life
id like to take a moment to thank our lord and savior for this post